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Comment on Marriage and the family pressure by Zahera

Zahera — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 21:06:39 +0000

Aassiiaaa my loveee! how are youuu
Anyway your lubley you are *sprinkles you with lovedust* dont worry about the pressure-when its meant to be..it shall be!

Comment on Marriage and the family pressure by H

Wed, 25 Aug 2010 22:55:53 +0000

I think all people should try to find themselves first. If we rely on things and people to make us happy, we can always lose those.

Dont worry, good things come to those who wait . Usually when we not looking and busy, things come our way.

Comment on Marriage and the family pressure by Hamish

Hamish — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 09:12:45 +0000

/finds you nice Pakistani boy.

Saqlain say hallo to Aasia.

Don’t stress I got the talk as well. My mom says I got to stop being full of shit. But its so hard to settle for something that you’re half happy with.

Comment on Marriage and the family pressure by aasia

aasia — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 04:53:40 +0000

Thanks Nafs you right but they try to meddle you know?
Ridwaan you’re never to old to get married my grandad married his 11th wife at 75 [A whole other blog) and she was half his age. you not even close yet ]

and Zuhayra Im not looking for perfection, Im waiting for my version of perfect!

Pserean thats possibly one of the most profound ways of looking at it. Thank you.

Comment on Marriage and the family pressure by pserean

pserean — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 20:54:05 +0000

the thing about being alone…is you always have a smidgeon of hope to carry you through. even if you never admit it…it lies there, pulsating underneath everything.
but…..once you’re married- and perhaps…it was merely to conquer the timeline….or for some other reason that suddenly seems rather weak- that hope just fizzles out and dies. no need for it. you already know the future.
and it is so much harder to be alone as a married person, than being alone- wondering what tomorrow will hold.

dont give in because of fatigue.or worry that no one else will come along to appreciate you.dont….diminish yourself to accept something you dont have to.
*good luck*

Comment on dawn of a new day by shabz

shabz — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 17:05:03 +0000

I’m really liking this one

Comment on Marriage and the family pressure by Zuhayra

Zuhayra — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 17:24:10 +0000

I think you’re being a little hard on yourself! From the little contact we’ve had, it seems you have more than enough to offer any man. And I don’t go around dishing out compliments, so this comes from a place of sincerity.

Better to wait for the right guy to come along than to marry the wrong one. We shouldn’t care for men who are interested in culture, weight, age, or looks… Only one who can challenge you about as much as you can challenge him. Finding a smart and emotionally intact man is near impossible.

But yes, you are right. Being alone is far from ideal. We are designed to thrive with a companion. I live alone and while I enjoy my freedom, the bottom line is that it just sucks!

Comment on Marriage and the family pressure by ridwan

ridwan — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 12:24:50 +0000

I turned 46 and a friend told me she had given up on me ever getting married and having kids.

The pressure is obviously very different for men than women as you will attest.

Still I think the single life is not all that bad but at times I too wonder what it would have been like …. ok I’m gonna stop wondering ;0)

Like Nafisa says, “live your life” my sista … only Allah knows what is for sure.

Peace and strugg;e,
Ridwan

Comment on Really? by Taahirah

Taahirah — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 22:22:24 +0000

Gosh! Your statement “Now we start playing “happy …………..elephant in the room I greet everytime I see them” is soooo spot on! No amount of family dinners is gonna fix what they’ve created, what I’ve dealt with over the years with a nod and a smile – looking at the ‘bigger picture’, choosing my battles, etc, etc…
Bottom line is that they’ve mistaken my humbleness as a weakness.

2009 was a mudder! to say the least! But the greatest lesson taken was, “before you retort- ask yourself: will it make a difference? If not, conserve your energies for more positive things and well, people who actually like you…lol!” Or well, don’t hate you…lol

So as a result, I’ve remained silent. “Stil bly is defnitief ‘n antwoord” ne! It’s been tough especially for someone like me who hates those lumpy carpets (from sweeping everything under the rug). But it’s been even tougher for those who need to keep up appearances of the ‘happy family’.

Comment on Marriage and the family pressure by Nafisa

Nafisa — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 14:41:16 +0000

Don’t you mean you’re either fulfilled or worried about family pressure?

Whatever you do, don’t give in to family pressure. They aren’t gonna live your life.