Acknowledge me, acknowledge my presence.
I am part of this too. I am not some interloper here to make you feel better
I am a real person, and not some second class citizen.
You chose to pretend that I don’t exist, than tell your flunkies not to push you in my face
Similar scenario perhaps? But I think I’ve gone beyond wanting them to acknowledge my presence. They’ve pretended that I don’t exist, told me to move on, and now that I have, they’re also pushing to get back into my life. What is up with the bipolar behaviour?
Now that they’ve gotten what they’ve wanted, what every innuendo, implication, direct message, facial expression has made clear… “Get out of our lives, forget you’ve ever met us, lose our numbers”. To quote some of what I was told.
Now I’ve done what they’ve wanted at their command, and the phone starts ringing after a year with the weakest attempts at apologies (no actual apology though)…. in the run up to 15th Sha’baan.
Smells like they’re using me to ease their conscience? It’s gone beyond ‘sorry’.
It’s a mix between bipolar and hypocrisy. Tired of it… aren’t you?
Are we sharing the same life??? Just had to ask. But yes that is precisely it. Now we start playing “happy family” because it’s the “right thing to do” and the hypocrisy is so obvious. It’s the elephant in the room I greet everytime I see them
Something I have learnt the hard way which I feel might help you. We allow people to dictate our feelings and sometimes their mere presence is enough to get us hot under the collar. You’re awesome so I would give two rats whiskers what anyone thinks.
Gosh! Your statement “Now we start playing “happy …………..elephant in the room I greet everytime I see them” is soooo spot on! No amount of family dinners is gonna fix what they’ve created, what I’ve dealt with over the years with a nod and a smile – looking at the ‘bigger picture’, choosing my battles, etc, etc…
Bottom line is that they’ve mistaken my humbleness as a weakness.
2009 was a mudder! to say the least! But the greatest lesson taken was, “before you retort- ask yourself: will it make a difference? If not, conserve your energies for more positive things and well, people who actually like you…lol!” Or well, don’t hate you…lol
So as a result, I’ve remained silent. “Stil bly is defnitief ‘n antwoord” ne! It’s been tough especially for someone like me who hates those lumpy carpets (from sweeping everything under the rug). But it’s been even tougher for those who need to keep up appearances of the ‘happy family’.